ONE SWEET DAY: 11 Of The Worst Things You Can Say To Someone Struggling With Infertility

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1. “Are you pregnant yet?”

11 Of The Worst Things You Can Say To Someone Struggling With Infertility

No, are you tactful yet?

2. “Maybe having children is not in God’s plan for you.”

What may be comforting to some is deeply insulting to others. Infertility can feel like a personal failing and by putting it down to simply not being in God’s plan, you are throwing our suffering in our face.

3. “Just be patient.”

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Imagine yourself in our shoes and what it would be like if someone kept telling you to be patient for something you desperately want and may never have.

4. “Have you tried the fertility diet?”

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Or acupuncture? Or sleeping with your pelvis tilted at a 45 degree angle? Or Googling fertility spells? Yep, we’ve tried literally everything.

5. “At least you still get to sleep in on weekends!”

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6. “Everything happens for a reason.”

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When you’re struggling with infertility, every month is an emotional rollercoaster of hope and anticipation, followed by heartbreaking disappointment. Please don’t tell us there’s a reason for this. We’d rather you acknowledge how much it sucks and mourn with us.

7. “Why don’t you just adopt?”

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“Just” adopt? Adoption should not be treated like a consolation prize or like a quick fix to someone’s yearning for a biological child. It’s a deeply personal choice, a huge decision, and there’s nothing “just” about it.